Socializing as an Introvert

Socializing as an Introvert

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February 5, 2020
Sarah E. Davies

People who are natural introverts often feel pressure to change.  They worry that they are not outgoing enough, and so sometimes they push themselves to socialize in ways that cause them more stress than enjoyment.

The truth is, there is nothing wrong with being an introvert.  Being an introvert doesn’t mean you don’t like people.  Being an introvert doesn’t mean that you don’t have deep and meaningful relationships.  Being an introvert doesn’t mean you aren’t outgoing in the right situation.  Being an introvert just means that you prefer socializing differently than extroverts.

Typical introverts like to spend social time with small groups rather than large ones, which may feel overwhelming and draining to them.  They also tend to want to discuss “real” issues rather than making small talk.  Introverts value deep relationships rather than more shallow relationships with a wider network of casual friends.  Big events with a lot of people exhaust them.  A cocktail party can seem like a nightmare, but a small dinner party sounds great.

So, if you are an introvert, you might try:

  1. Keeping up with relationships and socializing with the people who are important to you;
  2. Finding ways to meet new people in environments that do not feel overwhelming to you;
  3. Skipping the big reception in favor of getting coffee or lunch;
  4. If you go to a big event, going with a few people you really like and spending the evening with them;
  5. If you go to a big event, going with a plan and objective (like meeting a particular person);
  6. Attending social events that involve an activity so that you have an easy escape if things get overwhelming;
  7. Not feeling any regret at leaving a party when you are tired or have had enough;
  8. Saying no to events that don’t sound fun but planning events that fit your style better;
  9. Owning your introversion – don’t pretend to be an extrovert if you are not.